Jordan and Jennifer were living high. Their parents cautioned them that if they didn’t stop, they would suffer severe consequences and their marriage would be in danger.
Basically telling their two Dads and two Moms to mind their own business, Jordan and Jennifer happily refused to alter their habits. They went on expensive vacations, bought new furniture on a regular basis, and supplied their kids with designer clothes and every conceivable game and toy available. Furthermore, the couple helped anyone else in financial trouble, trying to appear rich and generous.
It took a short time before their four parents realized that they were being lied to – and that the money they kept providing for “emergencies” was simply going to buying more stuff.
Soon, they closed off all funds and refused to give Jordan and Jennifer any more funds. “Sorry,” they said, “the home bank is closed.”
As the noose began to tighten, they blamed their parents and each other. The blaming dissolved into bitter fighting between this husband and wife. About the time they had to take out a third mortgage on their home in order to meet even the most basic of their debts, they realized that their marriage wasn’t going to make it. They both wanted out. The children, bewildered and dismayed, watched as their world began to dissolve around them.
Counselors they went to could make no headway because neither Jordan nor Jennifer had any intention of taking their advice, even to save their marriage. Their union dissolved, the children moved into unhealthy rebellion and their parents still are loaded down with debt.
Recently we heard a pastor ask for anyone who needed prayer to speak up. Two people – from two different families – wanted prayer regarding their over-spending habits and the difficulty that had resulted. If you feel as if you have ticking bombs just outside your door that might blow your finances, home and marriage to pieces, take steps now to stop the carnage before it takes place. Do any of the following sound like you?
Recently we heard a pastor ask for anyone who needed prayer to speak up. Two people – from two different families – wanted prayer regarding their over-spending behavior and the trouble that had resulted. If you feel as if you have ticking bombs just outside your door that might upset your finances, home and marriage to smithereens, take steps now to stop the carnage before it takes place. Do any of the following sound like you?
- You’ve borrowed from family and friends to keep up your spending habits.
- Your home is in foreclosure, or you are months behind in payments.
- Your credit is in the tank
- You hold responsible God, the government, your parents, your spouse, anyone but yourself.
- Your marriage is in trouble.
Or perhaps your problem is painted a bit differently. If the bomb has already gone off, there still is much you can do. We have a lot of suggestions regarding your finances that work for men and for women at Love Relationship Headquarters, save your marriage site.
We help you learn how to love each other again, and even how to be romantic again with inexpensive dates. You’ll discover several books and material of ours that you can download straight away or you can get the printed versions. They will help your financial situation and revolutionize your relationship, no matter what problems you’re facing. One book, Spice It Up – 100 + 1 Hot Dates for You and Your Spouse will excite you with its countless ideas for dates that don’t cost anything.
Hang on to your most important asset for success – each other. Let’s repeat it. The most important possession you have is your marriage. Keep it strong. That will keep you and your children strong. If you don’t know how to be certain that your marriage is going to make it, whether your finances are shot or not, investigate our marriage saving site. We lead and guide you in how to strengthen and/or save your marriage. Trust us. It works.
Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
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September 3rd, 2010
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Self-sufficient he is, but invincible he is not. Sometimes my husband, George, should have listened to me because he’s made some interesting choices that he now regrets. Other times he gets along amazingly well without my advice. Okay, I heard that laugh. I’m laughing with you. But to give you an example:
Two years ago we bought some bare root trees: a fig and an almond. Not realizing the time (which is usual for me) I failed to put my bid in for where I wanted them to be planted. In dismay I stood looking at them later. The fig had been planted directly under the branches of one of our old apricot trees and the almond directly under the branches of another old apricot tree. His reasoning was that the apricot trees would die, we’d slash them down and the new trees would already be in place.
I just KNEW they would grow up warped and squatty. But, as he predicted, both apricots popped off from old age and the little trees are cheerily holding their own. He was so right. Wife, you have a treasure in that man of yours. Maybe you can’t see it right now, but start looking, dwelling on his positive points rather on what you are quite sure is hurting your marriage. If you want more help in that area, read my books written just for you:
A Woman’s Emotional Needs and Love Me Always – 12 Ways Women Can Have Exciting, Lasting Love. You can find them in our women’s material on our saving marriages site. If your marriage is too good to need saving, that doesn’t mean it can’t be better. We show you how to do that, too.
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July 14th, 2010
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Lance Armstrong won the Tour de France so many times, despite the bitterness of the French press that tried to discredit him time and again, that it astonishes us. He rose from cancer victim to cancer conqueror to cycling victor. He was determined. At times he fell behind other cyclists in different stages of the races. Reportedly, falling behind was on purpose so he could conserve his strength for more difficult stages. Other times, it was because someone, perhaps a sprinter, put on a burst of speed and outdid him. Whatever, he kept himself from being discouraged, figured out how he could have done better, and charged forth again with victory in mind.
Nevertheless, champion though he was on the bicycle, he was a dud when it came to marriage and relationships.
With several legitimate and illegitimate children to his credit and discredit, he seems to show no remorse, at least publicly, over his apparent failure as a good husband or father. We say that because if he were a good husband, he would have worked on preserving his marriage, and wouldn’t have a horde of “relationships” behind him. His legitimate children would still have a full time father, and his other children wouldn’t have to carry the stigma of illegitimacy around with them all of their lives. Yes, we are aware that it’s not such a big deal as it was a couple decades ago, but children born out of wedlock do experience a great void in their lives.
Possibly the fact that he reportedly was an illegitimate child, himself, that his birth father left him and his mother, and that his mother had married and divorced three times, had something to do with his attitude toward marriage and relationships Or perhaps it was his lack of faith as an agnostic. He is cited as saying: At the end of the day, if there was indeed some body or presence standing there to judge me, I hoped I would be judged on whether I had lived a true life…
A true life? Excuse us? Yes, he was true to cycling and although he doesn’t recognize it, many people were praying for him to be successful, including us, for his courage was admirable. But no, he wasn’t true in his personal life. Or so it seems. However, since we don’t know the man personally, it could be that he would have been true had his wives been true. We don’t know who was at fault, but if he is like the bulk of men, and especially since he had to be gone much of the time to pursue his career, it is likely that he didn’t meet his marriage responsibilities properly and the marriages were in trouble.
Every marriage should have, as its goal, love that reaches the arte level, the Greek word for excellence. “That’s easy,” says the newlywed who is still dreamy and the truth hasn’t hit the fan yet. “We’re doing fine,” says the husband who hasn’t a clue that his wife is miserable. “I’ve settled for less than what I desire,” says the wife who has given up hope.
That’s what our site for men and site for women on saving marriages is all about. Both sites show women and men what unique moves they can make to reach that intensity of arte or close to it so that their marriages will stay strong and secure.
Be willing to put the same indomitable spirit into making your marriage a victorious journey in life as Lance Armstrong has done to become a worldwide champion; so that, unlike him, you can save your marriage and give your children that wonderful knowledge that they have steady, loving parents who will keep things together. We give you the tools and the keys for doing just that. Come join us now for a sparkling future in your marriage.
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July 14th, 2010
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V:3 I’m jealous of my wife. There’s no reason for it. I know I’m going to lose her if I don’t quit.
Olivia was jealous. She could hardly stand it if another woman looked at her husband. Gavin’s comment to us was, “She’s even jealous when I play with the kids. Frankly, I just want to run, but I need to save my marriage for their sake. If I left, she’s do everything she could to keep me from seeing them.”
Olivia refused to go to a professional in the mental health field, but she liked our books, so Gavin thought that perhaps we could help her.
In reality, we found that Gavin was doing the exact same thing to his wife. Though she’d never been with anyone else, and although she made sure he was with her when she went anywhere and clearly was in love with the man – he was really jealous. It all came to a head when after church they got into a huge argument because she’d talked to a guy in their small group meeting. Yes, Gavin had been right there in the room. No, they hadn’t been talking about anything but the preacher’s morning message. Yes, when Gavin walked up, she pulled him in close and put her arm around him.
Jealousy is not love. It is rooted in fear. Fear is the catalyst for insecurities that create cracks in a solid marriage. Insecurity, in turn, results in possessiveness, and the need to control. Possessiveness and the need to control evidence themselves in jealous behavior. Jealousy will choke the life out of any relationship and can drive even the most devoted partner away, because it creates a prison – not just for the person who is jealous but his/her partner as well.
The root of all jealousy is fear. Fear generates insecurity. Insecurity, in turn, results in possessiveness, and the need to control. Possessiveness and the need to control evidence themselves in jealous behavior. Jealousy will choke the life out of any relationship and can drive even the most devoted partner away, because it creates a prison – not just for the person who is jealous but his/her partner as well. Jealousy does not always turn into abuse but if left unchecked it can. In 1984, a movie entitled The Burning Bed starred the late Farrah Fawcett as the battered wife of a jealous, controlling husband and startled the viewing world. In real life, rock legend Tina Turner, who left an abusive marriage, wrote the story of her miseries in I, Tina, from which the movie, What’s Love Got to Do with It? was made in 1993. If you’re a jealous person, and you want your marriage to survive, we’ll say it as bluntly as we know how – you need to do whatever it takes to get rid of the green-eyed giant. Do not let it take control of your marriage.
If you’re a jealous person, and you want your marriage to survive, we’ll say it as bluntly as we know how – you need to do whatever it takes to get rid of the green-eyed giant. If you truly love your spouse and want to trust that your marriage is solid you can make a change.
If you’re a jealous person, and you want your marriage to survive, we’ll say it as bluntly as we know how – you need to do whatever it takes to get rid of the green-eyed giant.
Jealousy can show up in the lives of people who otherwise seem strong and in control. They seem to have a need to fasten an iron grip on people, jobs, ideas and attitudes and tighten that grip if anything starts to slip. They can crush the life out of the people and projects they are associated with by smothering them. These people have to learn how to react properly if they want to preserve their position in life and save their marriages.
Even gentle people can be jealous if they are insecure and fearful. Their jealousy evidences itself in dependency. Others soon tire of their clinging and feel suffocated by their possessiveness, so they find excuses not to be around them. They, too, need lessons on how to save their marriages. You may struggle with distrust and envy of your siblings, your parents attention to others, and your friends. If you haven’t conquered the demon, you may be unkind toward your spouse’s relatives – especially your mother-in-law. You may even be envious of your husband’s or wife’s successes.
We help people overcome jealousy with our Substitution Technique; or shall we call it our Save My Marriage Technique? It’s essential because many marriages and relationships are destroyed by jealousy. Get rid of the fire spitting beast and safeguard your marriage. Don’t drive your spouse away with your jealous rage. You can save your marriage. Go to www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com. Get rid of jealousy. Our marriage saving material is exactly what you need.
Go to www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com. Get rid of jealousy. Our marriage saving material is exactly what you need. Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
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June 29th, 2010
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Mark became furious when his wife, Mindy, had an affair. “He’s a jerk!” Mark fumed. That “jerk” was doing the things for her that Mark used to do before they were married. Mr. Jerk made Mindy feel beautiful, desirable and loved. Mark was very much in love with his wife. Unfortunately the only time he showed her that side was when he was in the mood for sex. Even then it was nothing much but raw passion. He wasn’t able to save his marriage.
Mindy then went on to marry the “jerk” and was doomed to repeat the same patterns of neglect she had been in with Mark. That doesn’t surprise us here at Love Relationship Headquarters. That’s why we have felt compelled to help people get on a different pathway in their lives.
Women want to be worshipped and adored outside the bedroom as well as within. Of course, she wants that inside the bedroom, too, but if she doesn’t get it “outside,” she doesn’t appreciate what she gets “inside.”
Women need to know they count. They want to know that they are more important than anything else going on in their husbands’ lives. It does not matter what it is – if something is placed before your women she will feel neglected.
Women need to know they count. That they’re more important to their husbands than other things in the men’s world. It does not matter what it is – if something is placed before your women she will feel neglected..
All of the information you need can be found on www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com. Start clicking away and discover some of the most helpful books and materials you’ll ever have at your disposal. We can help you save your marriage. Even if it does not need saving – we can help you make it even better.
Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
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June 11th, 2010
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